Curing low self-esteem is not the answer.

​Having low self-esteem can be sole crushing. It is like an unbearable lack of confidence and some times even deep-set hate for yourself. Most people will suffer in silence, maybe even some of your closest friends and you don't even realize. This can give rise to anxiety, depression and other serious illnesses.

So it is understandable for people to think that if you can cure the world of low self-esteem you can cure the world of other debilitating illnesses. But lets first talk about what self-esteem is.

There are two types of Self-esteem, Trait self-esteem and State Self-esteem. Trait self-esteem is how you feel about your self the majority of the time; state self-esteem is how you feel about yourself at a given point in time. If you were to ask how you feel about your self at different times you will probably have different answers. Some days you may feel good about yourself, maybe you pleased your boss at work, other days you may feel low about yourself, maybe you did not hit a dead line you needed to or wanted to. Your state self-esteem changes due to your experiences day to day.

Self-esteem is like a measure. Think of it like a gage. We all have self-esteem, some high some low; we are all effected by it too. And it all comes down to how you think people perceive you.
It is built into our make up over thousands of years. Back when our ancestors lived in tribes, being excepted into a group or not was very serious for survival. It could mean the difference between life and death, so judging how others in your group perceived and accepted you was very important. This basic survival instinct still resonates in humans today.

It is basic human instinct to want to belong. If someone is rejected or not listened to this will lower their self-esteem. If their personality is different or odd they may be rejected from mainstream groups at school or in the work place, leading them to strive for acceptance in other groups with lower acceptance values, mainly the unsociable and delinquent groups. Unsociable behaviour will lead to acceptance from this group but further rejection by the original desired group leading to lower self-esteem.

So to understand your self-esteem look at your surroundings, and your past. Ask what has lowered your self-esteem and then change it. Surround yourself with positive people and don't give so much time to negative people. Do things you're good at, and do them often. Look back in your past and come to peace with the rejection or negatives, leave it in the past and look at changing your State self-esteem to a higher one more often, this in time will then change your Trait self-esteem.


The answer is curing the things that lowers your self-esteem