Having low self-esteem can be sole crushing. It is like an unbearable lack of confidence and some times even deep-set hate for yourself. Most people will suffer in silence, maybe even some of your closest friends and you don't even realize. This can give rise to anxiety, depression and other serious illnesses. So it is understandable for people to think that if you can cure the world of low self-esteem you can cure the world of other debilitating illnesses. But lets first talk about what self-esteem is. There are two types of Self-esteem, Trait self-esteem and State Self-esteem. Trait self-esteem is how you feel about your self the majority of the time; state self-esteem is how you feel about yourself at a given point in time. If you were to ask how you feel about your self at different times you will probably have different answers. Some days you may feel good about yourself, maybe you pleased your boss at work, other days you may feel low about yourself, maybe you did not hit a dead line you needed to or wanted to. Your state self-esteem changes due to your experiences day to day. Self-esteem is like a measure. Think of it like a gage. We all have self-esteem, some high some low; we are all effected by it too. And it all comes down to how you think people perceive you. It is built into our make up over thousands of years. Back when our ancestors lived in tribes, being excepted into a group or not was very serious for survival. It could mean the difference between life and death, so judging how others in your group perceived and accepted you was very important. This basic survival instinct still resonates in humans today. It is basic human instinct to want to belong. If someone is rejected or not listened to this will lower their self-esteem. If their personality is different or odd they may be rejected from mainstream groups at school or in the work place, leading them to strive for acceptance in other groups with lower acceptance values, mainly the unsociable and delinquent groups. Unsociable behaviour will lead to acceptance from this group but further rejection by the original desired group leading to lower self-esteem. So to understand your self-esteem look at your surroundings, and your past. Ask what has lowered your self-esteem and then change it. Surround yourself with positive people and don't give so much time to negative people. Do things you're good at, and do them often. Look back in your past and come to peace with the rejection or negatives, leave it in the past and look at changing your State self-esteem to a higher one more often, this in time will then change your Trait self-esteem. The answer is curing the things that lowers your self-esteem
7/1/2024
It Is All Foreign To MeIt is very hard to describe to a non-dyslexic how I see the written word, however I think I hit the nail on the head today. My husband and I were travelling, south on the M25. I was staring at the vehicles as they drove passed, and one read FS Contact. At first glance I read FS Connect, then I focused my thoughts and read the word correctly. I set about trying to explain to my husband, that I automatically guessed the word from my memory bank, but once I told myself to actually read the word I decoded it, and read the word correctly. My husband found this very interesting. I sat staring at other vehicles for a while and realized I was still not automatically, registering a lot of the words written on them. I pointed to one lorry with lots of writing on the back. I did not register any of what it said until I told myself to read it, and then I saw the word 'Transport'. I thought, this is a perfect example, and so I pointed the lorry out to my husband. I said "Do you see that grey lorry to the left of us?' He said, "Yes." I said, "I was staring at the back of that lorry but did not read the writing. It's as if it is written in a foreign language." I took a second look and focused my thoughts to read the words and then said, "Oh wait it is a foreign language." We both laughed a lot at this. The only English word on the van was Transport! And it wasn't until I told my self to read that I decoded the other words and realized I could not decode them. Until that point it was all a foreign language to me, even the english word. Maybe if I had decoded the word POLAND it would have helped. But the fact that worlds are written in uppercase is another issue. It adds to the effort needed to decode the letters into words. So for me looking at the English language is sometimes like you looking at a foreign language. I have to focus my thoughts to decode the letters into words. But until that point it is all foreign to me. So if you can now imaging what it is like for a child seeing words in this way, you may find you have a bit more patience with them. It is tiresome for any adult to constantly focus your self on a task. Can you imagine what its like for a child to have to do this with a task that you, (a non dyslexic) finds relatively effortless, and then they have other distractions going on around them. Its no wonder dyslexic children get easily distracted. But shouting at them or losing patients with them will NEVER solve the issue. They just need a lot more of your time and effort to learn and store words. I left school with such a small amount of words in my memory bank this now makes decoding the English langue as an adult harder for me. I hope this helps you understand a little more about dyslexia. Have you been harboring book ideas in your mind for years? Perhaps you've even started putting them on paper, but the process feels overwhelming. You're not alone. However, it's essential not to remain stuck in this cycle. Don't become the person who tells stories of unrealized ideas to future generations. Instead, let me share my process from idea to print, in the hopes of inspiring you to write your own story, regardless of how long it takes or whether you choose to publish it. Idea Generation: When an idea strikes, I first explore it in my mind. I contemplate the main focal points, potential twists, and what makes it unique. Staying within my thoughts, I develop a rough plotline, envisioning how the story will unfold. Transferring Ideas to Paper: To bring my ideas to life, I personally prefer using a word document, but you may choose pen and paper or whiteboard brainstorming. At this stage, I jot down the story's parts, not yet focusing on chapters. I aim to transfer the story from my mind to paper, refining it in the process. Sometimes the story may not work on paper, and that's okay—it might end there. Creating a Plot Draft: Next, I transform the story parts into rough chapter ideas. I make basic notes on the events I want to take place in each chapter, organizing the sequence and considering timelines. This stage involves several drafts, with breaks of a day between each one, allowing the story to breathe and gain clarity. Letting It Breathe: Taking breaks between drafts is crucial for the story's growth and clarity. By allowing a day or two to pass, you can approach the story with fresh eyes, often gaining new insights and perspectives. "Sleeping on it" proves beneficial in the creative process. Finalizing the Plot: Once my story reaches a stage I consider a final plot, I know I'm ready to proceed. By this point, I have spent four to six days immersing myself in the story, constantly refining the plotlines. If I'm not eager to start writing at this stage, then perhaps the book isn't worth pursuing anyway. Beginning with the First Chapter: With the final plot in hand, I'm eager to start writing. I use the plot as a guide to keep me on track. Before diving into each chapter, I review my plot draft, understanding the goals I want to achieve. Adding details and descriptions becomes easier with the guidance of the plot. Writing the Manuscript: Knowing what I'm writing, I establish a writing plan. Whether you're a full-time writer or have limited time due to other commitments, finding dedicated time for writing is crucial. Even short daily sessions can yield significant progress. The key is to prioritize and invest the available time. First Draft Manuscript: Upon completing the first draft, it's time to let it breathe again. Celebrate your accomplishment and prepare for a read-through. Starting from the beginning, go through the manuscript, making any necessary changes and improvements. At this stage, the manuscript is ready for editor critiques. Critiquing: Seeking feedback from an editor is essential. They will pinpoint inconsistencies, rushed sections, character development, story pacing, and overall tone. Incorporate their suggestions and send the revised manuscript back for further critiques if needed. Editing: Once the critiques are complete, the manuscript returns to the editor for editing and proofreading. This step involves correcting grammar, spelling, typos, and sentence structure. As a self-published author, you may not have access to extensive resources like big publishing houses, but thorough self-proofreading is vital. Final Manuscript: With the edited manuscript in hand, it's time to
2/10/2024
Stop TyposEnhancing Proofreading with a Helpful App: My Experience as a WriterAs a writer, one of my constant challenges is spotting typos in my work. Fortunately, I recently came across an app that has significantly improved my proofreading process. Being dyslexic, I greatly appreciate any assistance I can get in this regard. In this video, I share how this app has made my life easier, both in my professional and personal endeavors. I invite you to watch the video and share your thoughts by commenting below or on my YouTube channel. Don't forget to hit those all-important like buttons as well! The app I've been using is called Speechify, and it has been a game-changer for me. You can find more about it at their website: https://getspeechify.com/. Additionally, make sure to check out their Facebook page for updates and more information: https://www.facebook.com/getspeechify/. In my quest to improve my proofreading skills, the Speechify app has been a valuable tool. As a writer, I'm always on the lookout for ways to enhance my writing process, and this app has provided much-needed support. I encourage you to explore Speechify and see if it can benefit you as well. Let me know your thoughts and experiences in the comments section or on my YouTube video. Your feedback is highly appreciated! Note: This video and recommendation are based on my personal experience, and individual results may vary.
2/8/2024
How to Make an Audio BookMy Journey of Self-Publishing an Audiobook: A Personal Experience
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Developing my audiobook with ACX.com was an enjoyable experience, and I highly recommend their services. However, it's worth mentioning that there are other companies available as well. I encourage you to research and find the best fit for your needs. Feel free to email me if you have any questions. For more writing advice, you can follow me on Instagram @VixBrowneAuthor and check out my videos under my bio. Good luck and have fun creating your own audiobook! Note: This blog post is based on my personal experience, and your journey may vary.
1/1/2023
The Many Sources of Inspiration:Fueling My Writing Journey![]() There was a time when I worried that reading other books while writing would strip away my identity and make me sound like someone else. However, I soon discovered that my unique writer's fingerprint always shines through, regardless of the authors I read. Surprisingly, I also found that listening to audiobooks serves as a great source of inspiration. I vividly recall mornings spent pounding the treadmill, immersed in a captivating story, only to return home with an irresistible urge to grab my laptop and write. Inspiration can be found in unexpected places, including films and TV shows. Whether it's a heartwarming chick flick or a gripping drama, these stories often ignite my creativity, particularly in character building. Recently, while engrossed in Criminal Minds, a show far from the usual chick flick genre, the beautifully portrayed friendship between Penelope Garcia and Derek Morgan captivated me. It resembled the nuanced character development found in novels, leaving a lasting impression. Every situation we encounter, whether joyful or challenging, holds the potential for inspiration. Think back to the loss of your first pet—did you quietly shed tears into your pillow or sob uncontrollably, desperately hoping it wasn't true? Every moment in life possesses its own unique inspiration. Even the people we encounter unknowingly contribute to our creative wellspring. Observe their mannerisms, listen to their idiosyncrasies, and use them as the raw material that enriches your writing. The Nigerian lady at the reception desk who clicks her tongue when frustrated, the neighbor upstairs whose cooking aromas drive you mad—these observations can breathe life into your characters. Many believe that writing is easy and that they could do it if only they had the time. However, it's not the act of writing itself that poses the challenge. It's the art of harnessing inspiration, maintaining momentum, committing to the process, and persevering through creative boundaries. Writing requires dedication and perseverance. Yet, there's no greater reward than holding the final proof copy of your book in your hands, knowing that your hard work has paid off. As writers, we have an abundance of sources from which to draw inspiration. Whether it's immersing ourselves in books, finding motivation in audiobooks, or observing the world around us, each experience shapes our unique writing journey. Remember, writing is more than words on a page—it's a commitment, a creative exploration, and a labor of love. So, keep writing, harness your inspiration, and may the final proof copy of your book be a testament to the fulfillment that comes with hard work. Best of luck on your writing endeavors! Feel free to leave a comment below. This blog post reflects my personal experience as a writer, and individual results may vary. First things first, have a clear plan of what you want to achieve, is it a mailing list, reviews, noticeability, book sales? So where do you start? The answer is everywhere. Get set up on all social media platforms if you are not already, think about the image you want to portray to your readers and followers. Now comes the juggling act. There are lots of ways to make your social media life easier, like linking your pages so that you can pin a pin on Pinterest and it automatically posts on your Twitter and Facebook page, the same with Goodreads. Then there is Buffer, a handy app that lets you schedule tweets and pins in advance and posts them for you. However there comes a time when you need to focus on what works best for you. The vast majority of successful authors will tell you that whilst they have mastered the social media juggling act, they focus their attention on just one or two social media platforms that work best for them. Social Media Platforms Twitter - Great for brand awareness and networking with bloggers. Facebook Fan Page - Great for brand awareness and showcasing. LinkedIn - Great for networking with professionals in your field and forums. Instagram - Great to connect with your readers in a fun creative way through images. Pinterest - Great way to advertise and connect with readers in a fun way. It is the latest BIG buz in the author world so make sure you have a business account set up and widgets on your website and blog. But lets look at Goodreads and YouTube more closely. Goodreads is the biggest book club out there. It has forums, groups, authors and bloggers and most importantly die hard readers. This is where you want to be spending your cyber days. Start to friend readers and follow authors, also make sure you are posting ratings and reviews. Direct message - Message the people, who have marked your book ‘to read,’ you could offer a free down load in return for an honest review. Goodreads Giveaway - Your book will be seen by hundreds of readers and the lucky winners of the Giveaway can be added to your mailing list. This not only helps build your mailing list but also builds it with readers who want to read your genre, and who will be interested in reading further books you write. They will also hopefully review your book and build on your review numbers. YouTube is a brilliant way of getting you, the author, and your books out there. Create your own channel and set up a YouTube platform. Here you can showcase you and your book. Show people who you are with fun videos and book trailers. Not confident in the art of video making? Click here and for $39 you can have SolaFide Publishing do it for you. All you need is a storyboard and a YouTube channel. There are some great sites out there like Animoto.com where you choose a template video, add your pictures from your storyboard and out pop’s a professional video. Animoto.com. You can pay for one months use for around $20 and make as many videos as you like and for as long as you like. I would recommend about a 1 minute for a book trailer. There are also sites like Flixpress.com were you can make video intros to add onto your book trailer. In the same way you choose a template, add in the words and out pops an intro trailer. Now that you have an intro trailer, a book trailers you will need to cut them together. You can do this in YouTube editor. Just upload your trailers to YouTube, but remember to mark the clips as private so no one can see them. Then go to YouTube Editor and you will see the videos clips in your editing page on the right hand side. From there you drag and drop, and cut down the video as required. After you’re done you will need to select a project at the top of the page and wait for it to appear back on your YouTube Chanel, now your ready to mark as public and share. And if you need help with the juggling act find a Book Publicist Publicists like SolaFide Publishing will manage your publicity. If you want to go down this route it is important to choose wisely and work with a publicist that is well connected. A publicist will do a number of things for you depending on what you are looking to achieve, book tours, generating reviews, interviews, book cover reveals and social medial promotions. The larger publicists have a large list of bloggers to connect you with and even connections with online publications to further spared your noticeability. Good luck x
9/27/2017
The Inspiration Behind 'Slip'A Short StoryIn 2012, I had an idea for two short stories. However, with my focus on writing my previous novels, it took me five years to finally bring one of them to life.
'Slip' is a poignant tale loosely based on a true story involving my mother and one of her sisters. The idea for 'Slip' had always resided within me, waiting for the right moment to emerge. I vividly remembered a lingering unresolved issue between my mum and her sister, who lived in Canada. Intrigued, I reached out to my mother, seeking to understand what had transpired. During my aunt's last visit, my mother confided in me, expressing apprehension. Like so many of us, years had passed with unsaid words and unaddressed tensions. Prior to her sister's arrival, my mother had composed a heartfelt letter, pouring out her thoughts and feelings, which she promptly sent to Canada. Although my aunt's visit was brief, it left an indelible mark. Our entire family came together, creating cherished memories. My mother, as the eldest, had two younger sisters and a brother, and that day became a treasured memory for me. All our cousins and their children joined the gathering, and joy permeated the atmosphere. Despite the pleasant day, my mother remained unsettled after my aunt's departure. It turned out that the letter had arrived late, and my aunt was unaware of its existence during her visit. The delayed revelation saddened my mother. However, a week later, my auntie called, and they engaged in a heartfelt conversation. They finally expressed sentiments that had remained unspoken since the 1940s. This series of events sparked a profound realization within me. What if my mother's letter had arrived before my aunt's departure? Would she have allotted more time to be with us? Could the day have been even more remarkable? Or what if they had picked up the phone and addressed their issues years ago? These reflections inspired me to write 'Slip,' urging others not to let time slip away without resolution. When my editor returned the final draft, she expressed her desire for a copy once it was published, intending to share it with her own sister. Additionally, I sent a proof copy of 'Slip' to my best friend, and her response deeply touched me. After reading the story, she reached out to her own sister, resolving a small issue that had been weighing on them. That heartfelt connection reaffirmed that I had indeed written a story with soul. 'Slip' will be available in November 2017, carrying with it a message of seizing the present moment and reconciling with loved ones. In this blog update, I express my gratitude to all those who have joined me on this journey, sharing my mother's backstory and finding inspiration within its pages. If 'Slip' resonated with you, I would be delighted to read your thoughts in a review. Thank you for your support and for being a part of this meaningful exploration. The story of 'Slip' is a work of fiction inspired by real-life experiences. Names, places, and events have been altered for narrative purposes. Why I wrote Gut Feeling & why I keep writingDyslexia can be a challenging disability for a creative writer, as the vocabulary in one's mind may not align with spelling abilities. This discrepancy often leads to substituting words on paper, inadvertently diminishing the impact of the writing on the reader. However, with determination and resilience, one can navigate this journey and discover their true potential. At the age of twenty, I found myself exploring various genres and writing styles, delving into erotica poetry and general philosophy. Reflecting on this phase, I now see the natural creative path I was carving for myself. Similar to an artist experimenting with different mediums, I was seeking my unique voice in the realm of writing. Realizing that I needed assistance, I sought help at twenty-four to overcome my spelling challenges. It was during this journey that I also discovered a weakness in my short-term memory, where information would easily slip away. Working with a therapist, I focused on developing my memory skills, going back to the basics to teach myself spelling. During my therapy program, my therapist encouraged me to write a diary as a means to enhance my reading and writing abilities. Reluctant to write diaries, I shared some romantic scenes I had written instead. In response, my therapist suggested building a beginning and an end around one of those scenes. And so, Gut Feeling, my first book, was born. Behind my writing journey lies a powerful "why." A teacher once told my parents that I wouldn't achieve much, and for a long time, I believed that prophecy. However, upon leaving school, I began to embrace the positive encouragement from my parents and grew to believe that I could accomplish anything I set my mind to. I write to remember my achievements, the commitment it took, and to defy the limitations others imposed on me. My "why" is simply, why not? Existing as a dyslexic writer exposes one to potential criticism, but my advice to fellow dyslexic writers is to never be embarrassed by your abilities; instead, be proud of them. Never give up and keep teaching yourself, continuously learning and growing. Remember, you are amazing. Dyslexia presents challenges for creative writers, but it also offers opportunities for growth and resilience. Embracing dyslexia and harnessing its unique perspective can lead to remarkable achievements. To all dyslexic writers, hold your abilities with pride, never be discouraged, and keep pursuing your passion. Your journey as a creative writer is truly remarkable.
1/11/2016
My First Radio InterviewWho in their right mind would put me on the radio? Someone who hasn't met me, clearly! namely Tom Cannon from #CroydonRadio However, I behaved myself and was quit professional about the whole thing. We had a nice lighthearted chat about my books, my writing process, and growing up with dyslexia and I didn't swear once. My mum did call to tell me that I said 'Oh God' a few times. I don't remember, but i'll take that over the f-word on local radio. Sorry mum x If you missed the show, don't worry I found their a pod cast :) yay! click the link below and you can listen to me being very professional and not embarrassing my friends and family like I normally do! The show is two hours, so to hear my interview simply fast forward to the last 25minutes of the show and there I am :) enjoy x Life is what you make it....
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